When you make your friendship all about the kids, you can quickly figure out whether this mama has similar or far different parenting styles than you. In a perfect world she would have a similar philosophy OR you could both live side-by-side being best friends with opposing parenting styles. BUT, this is unlikely. We are human and it is human nature to judge whether we like it or not. Even if we try our very best, we are most likely going to judge our mama friends on ways they handle their children at some point or another. This can be a big turn off for strengthening a relationship.
The same goes for interests… Maybe your idea of a perfect get away would be to get out and drink some wine at a nice restaurant but this mama you met at the park wants to go out clubbing. Definitely different ideas of what would be a fun night away from the kids.https://multitaskingmotherhood.wordpress.com/2020/02/06/in-search-of-mom-friends-why-it-is-difficult-and-how-to-do-it