Losing connection is too easy nowadays when almost every avenue for in person interaction is closed off

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It’s not as easy to just grab a bite to eat with someone when every outside interaction comes with the specter of covid infection. This also closes off a lot of ways to create new friends. I recently have gotten back into a card game that could offer me new avenues of creating friendships, but the venues for meeting to play are dens of covid disregard. Social media is a tentative way to connect but it rarely offers the kind of comfort that seeing people in person creates. I have never been the type of person to create online friendships with strangers from across the globe. My parents were all too effective at instilling “stranger danger” type fear over chatrooms into me as a child. I am also a person who is just afraid of posting anything too personal online. That is part of the therapeutic (hopefully) quality of this blog, to offer a more honest (although technically anonymous) space for myself. I hope also that talking through these things, if you know me or not, will be in some way relatable to you, reader. We live in lonely times, and it’s easy to feel disconnected but we all have a lot more in common than we usually think.

https://thestruggler625964548.wordpress.com/2020/11/02/disconnection

Show off your ‘niceness’

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This can be by reaching out to the people you love or a kind word to a stranger. We all know this is important but life can get in the way. Especially in our current, uncertain, ‘new normal’ (I hate that phrase, so apologies for using it!). We can’t get together as much as we might have before. And we are barraged with negative news on the daily. It’s so much more vital that we remind each other regularly of how much love we have.

https://wordpollen.blog/2020/10/27/thank-you-ms-nice-cyclist

Intimate relationships / friendships are only viable if you completely trust the connection

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I have been blessed and I am truly grateful for my people, the ones who know that we are in it for the long run. Those that have been playing this game of life with me since childhood and the new ones that have crept into my heart without even trying to, I blinked and there you were. You are my people and you add so much value to my life, all of you. I will hold you in my heart forever, no matter your choices.

A bid for connection is an action that tries to get your attention and indicates a desire for connection

The three ways that people respond to a bid for connection are:

  1. Turn Away
    – Shrug and ignore
    – Change the subject
    – Look at them for a moment, and then carry on with what you were doing
    – Respond apathetically
    – Quietly leave the room
  2. Turn Against
    – “What’s wrong with you?!”
    – “Why are you always so frustrated about everything!?”
    – “Can’t you tell I’m busy?! I do all the work around here. What do you ever do?!”
    – “That’s annoying, could you stop!?”
    – “If you’re going to act annoyed, could you do it somewhere else!?”
  3. Turn Towards
    – “What can I do to help you?”
    – “Why don’t I rub your feet while you tell me about your day.”
    – “I am so sorry that you have to deal with … that must be so awful. ”
    – “That’s hilarious! I wish I could have been there too!”
    – “Is something the matter?” or “Is something bothering you?”
    – “What’s on your mind? Would you like to talk about it?”

https://intimacypact.wordpress.com/2020/02/22/recognizing-responding-to-bids-for-connection