Tag: relationships

I am so starved for human interaction and connection these days

Keywords: anxiety , healing , mental health , motherhood

For the past few years, I’ve felt like I’ve had a dark storm cloud over my head. It forced me to withdraw from the world, which now I know I needed in order to heal and determine the types of relationships I wanted to manifest in my life. Since that period has passed, I am so so so eager to get in the world and connect…. but for obvious reasons, that is a bit difficult at the moment, so I’m grateful for any interaction, even if it is someone asking Mila what kind of bug she is holding.

https://thestruggleisteal.com/2020/08/20/emotional-regulation-and-momming
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One big lie that so many people live with is: “OMG you can’t say that!”

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So many relationships operate in defense mode where each person is working to not offend or hurt the other person and will hide the reality of their experience from the other person while rationalizing it as protecting the other person. The trouble with this is that person A then loses the opportunity to know what’s going on internally in person B, thereby losing the opportunity for any real connection. When we hide our inner experience from people, we take away their ability to choose how to interact with us. In effect, we’re taking measures to control how they will interact with us. Control is what scared people do in relationship. So many of us have been deeply wounded in and through relationships and the temptation to stop pursuing connection is present for many humans. It seems easier to just give up. Thing is, if we’re wounded in relationship, it’s in relationship where we can be healed. Control is a relational tool that removes the agency of others in our relationships to mitigate risk. It’s an obstacle to overcome in the pursuit of living whole-heartedly. The opposite of control is trust.

https://theweirdochristian.wordpress.com/2020/07/23/what-does-bravery-have-to-do-with-connection

Intimate relationships / friendships are only viable if you completely trust the connection

Keywords: dance , relationships , connection , frienship , joy , peace , rhthym , unconditionallove , writersoftheworld , writeyourtruth , writingislife

I have been blessed and I am truly grateful for my people, the ones who know that we are in it for the long run. Those that have been playing this game of life with me since childhood and the new ones that have crept into my heart without even trying to, I blinked and there you were. You are my people and you add so much value to my life, all of you. I will hold you in my heart forever, no matter your choices.