There was something in that smile

Keywords: lifejourney , strangers , talking

Slowly I started talking with them, from the little kids to elderly ones. They shared me their stories, the new gossips, their festivals and how they celebrate it. They told me about how their life changed, what work they do, about their children who worked in the cities and the struggle they went through. The kids wandered around me, showing me their play areas and their secret hide-outs. They were all friendly, welcoming and treated us as one among them. I walked along the green fields, sat by the pond, watched the cows grazing and enjoyed the evening prayers in the temple among the villagers.

https://aletaltalk.wordpress.com/2020/10/06/the-joy-of-meeting-new-people

Both letters and contents, addressed to me!

Keywords: life , observations , self-other , emails , family , letters , mails , memories , nostalgia , posts

When we were taught about letters, letter writing and post offices in school,  we had to write a letter to ourselves and post them. After we had tracked back our letters, we had to write an essay recording the process. I couldn’t wait to get my letter back! I ran back and waited till 4.20 pm when the post man would come by to collect the letters from the post box near home.  I even remember asking him, when I’d get my letter! Finally, when I got back my letter and saw the stamping on it- I was thrilled. It had actually been to some place else and had came back to me!

https://matangimawley.com/2020/09/18/do-you-have-a-letter-for-me

One big lie that so many people live with is: “OMG you can’t say that!”

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So many relationships operate in defense mode where each person is working to not offend or hurt the other person and will hide the reality of their experience from the other person while rationalizing it as protecting the other person. The trouble with this is that person A then loses the opportunity to know what’s going on internally in person B, thereby losing the opportunity for any real connection. When we hide our inner experience from people, we take away their ability to choose how to interact with us. In effect, we’re taking measures to control how they will interact with us. Control is what scared people do in relationship. So many of us have been deeply wounded in and through relationships and the temptation to stop pursuing connection is present for many humans. It seems easier to just give up. Thing is, if we’re wounded in relationship, it’s in relationship where we can be healed. Control is a relational tool that removes the agency of others in our relationships to mitigate risk. It’s an obstacle to overcome in the pursuit of living whole-heartedly. The opposite of control is trust.

https://theweirdochristian.wordpress.com/2020/07/23/what-does-bravery-have-to-do-with-connection