Losing connection is too easy nowadays when almost every avenue for in person interaction is closed off

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It’s not as easy to just grab a bite to eat with someone when every outside interaction comes with the specter of covid infection. This also closes off a lot of ways to create new friends. I recently have gotten back into a card game that could offer me new avenues of creating friendships, but the venues for meeting to play are dens of covid disregard. Social media is a tentative way to connect but it rarely offers the kind of comfort that seeing people in person creates. I have never been the type of person to create online friendships with strangers from across the globe. My parents were all too effective at instilling “stranger danger” type fear over chatrooms into me as a child. I am also a person who is just afraid of posting anything too personal online. That is part of the therapeutic (hopefully) quality of this blog, to offer a more honest (although technically anonymous) space for myself. I hope also that talking through these things, if you know me or not, will be in some way relatable to you, reader. We live in lonely times, and it’s easy to feel disconnected but we all have a lot more in common than we usually think.

https://thestruggler625964548.wordpress.com/2020/11/02/disconnection

I always hope to chat and display my openness to them and a strong desire to connect

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They may poke around any bit of me, ask any question of me, observe, and decide what they think. I’ll have no control over them, but only let them in and, if they come, gratefully respond according to each. If ever they will tell me something they want of me I will feel a particular desire to accommodate them.

https://aspidistras.wordpress.com/2020/10/29/where-the-fuck-is-this-leading

The way we learn to relate with others when we’re babies weaves the patterns we then repeat with every person we connect with for the rest of our lives

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It’s important to understand your/your loved ones attachment styles to use as another tool for communication & for your own self-awareness. The more attention we can concentrate on how one’s behavior & characteristics have been informed, the more we can come to appreciate the unique ways in which they express their love for us.

https://notesbynani.com/self-awareness-hack-whats-your-attachment-style

One big lie that so many people live with is: “OMG you can’t say that!”

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So many relationships operate in defense mode where each person is working to not offend or hurt the other person and will hide the reality of their experience from the other person while rationalizing it as protecting the other person. The trouble with this is that person A then loses the opportunity to know what’s going on internally in person B, thereby losing the opportunity for any real connection. When we hide our inner experience from people, we take away their ability to choose how to interact with us. In effect, we’re taking measures to control how they will interact with us. Control is what scared people do in relationship. So many of us have been deeply wounded in and through relationships and the temptation to stop pursuing connection is present for many humans. It seems easier to just give up. Thing is, if we’re wounded in relationship, it’s in relationship where we can be healed. Control is a relational tool that removes the agency of others in our relationships to mitigate risk. It’s an obstacle to overcome in the pursuit of living whole-heartedly. The opposite of control is trust.

https://theweirdochristian.wordpress.com/2020/07/23/what-does-bravery-have-to-do-with-connection

Life is not like a Hollywood movie where someone goes on to put tremendous effort to achieve some form of a connection with another person and magically succeeds

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Too many seasonal people, too little interest, too much mindless mingling.

https://eternalwillpower.wordpress.com/2020/07/22/you-cant-force-a-connection-move-on