Keywords: Lifestyle & Relationships
Do we need to have connections to have conversations OR do conversations build connections? Which comes first?
https://theartofconversations.com/2020/03/06/connections-or-conversations-which-first
The three ways that people respond to a bid for connection are:
- Turn Away
– Shrug and ignore
– Change the subject
– Look at them for a moment, and then carry on with what you were doing
– Respond apathetically
– Quietly leave the room- Turn Against
– “What’s wrong with you?!”
– “Why are you always so frustrated about everything!?”
– “Can’t you tell I’m busy?! I do all the work around here. What do you ever do?!”
– “That’s annoying, could you stop!?”
– “If you’re going to act annoyed, could you do it somewhere else!?”- Turn Towards
– “What can I do to help you?”
– “Why don’t I rub your feet while you tell me about your day.”
– “I am so sorry that you have to deal with … that must be so awful. ”
– “That’s hilarious! I wish I could have been there too!”
– “Is something the matter?” or “Is something bothering you?”
– “What’s on your mind? Would you like to talk about it?”
https://intimacypact.wordpress.com/2020/02/22/recognizing-responding-to-bids-for-connection
The takeaway – Community is important. It is important not to be judgmental and accept people as they are and try to connect. Relationships take time and one should give it time.
https://confuseddesiblogs.wordpress.com/2020/02/22/how-a-loner-like-me-understood-the-importance-of-community
It’s nice to think that there are people out there who are meant to be in our lives, but bogging down our mind with the belief that we have a soulmate waiting for us, and that we haven’t found them yet, or that we found them and we are about to lose them, is not healthy. It detracts from who we are, what we are capable of, and what we do on a daily basis.
Moreover, it keeps people out of our lives who we don’t believe are our soulmates. We push them aside as we focus on the people that ‘really matter’, and that causes us to lose out on some relationships that can benefit our lives in an amazing way.
https://nevertrusttheperfectblog.art.blog/2020/02/07/are-soul-mates-a-real-thing
When you make your friendship all about the kids, you can quickly figure out whether this mama has similar or far different parenting styles than you. In a perfect world she would have a similar philosophy OR you could both live side-by-side being best friends with opposing parenting styles. BUT, this is unlikely. We are human and it is human nature to judge whether we like it or not. Even if we try our very best, we are most likely going to judge our mama friends on ways they handle their children at some point or another. This can be a big turn off for strengthening a relationship.
The same goes for interests… Maybe your idea of a perfect get away would be to get out and drink some wine at a nice restaurant but this mama you met at the park wants to go out clubbing. Definitely different ideas of what would be a fun night away from the kids.
https://multitaskingmotherhood.wordpress.com/2020/02/06/in-search-of-mom-friends-why-it-is-difficult-and-how-to-do-it
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