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They may poke around any bit of me, ask any question of me, observe, and decide what they think. I’ll have no control over them, but only let them in and, if they come, gratefully respond according to each. If ever they will tell me something they want of me I will feel a particular desire to accommodate them.
https://aspidistras.wordpress.com/2020/10/29/where-the-fuck-is-this-leading
The three ways that people respond to a bid for connection are:
- Turn Away
– Shrug and ignore
– Change the subject
– Look at them for a moment, and then carry on with what you were doing
– Respond apathetically
– Quietly leave the room- Turn Against
– “What’s wrong with you?!”
– “Why are you always so frustrated about everything!?”
– “Can’t you tell I’m busy?! I do all the work around here. What do you ever do?!”
– “That’s annoying, could you stop!?”
– “If you’re going to act annoyed, could you do it somewhere else!?”- Turn Towards
– “What can I do to help you?”
– “Why don’t I rub your feet while you tell me about your day.”
– “I am so sorry that you have to deal with … that must be so awful. ”
– “That’s hilarious! I wish I could have been there too!”
– “Is something the matter?” or “Is something bothering you?”
– “What’s on your mind? Would you like to talk about it?”
https://intimacypact.wordpress.com/2020/02/22/recognizing-responding-to-bids-for-connection
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