The three ways that people respond to a bid for connection are:

1. Turn Away
   – Shrug and ignore
   – Change the subject
   – Look at them for a moment, and then carry on with what you were doing
   – Respond apathetically
   – Quietly leave the room
2. Turn Against
   – “What’s wrong with you?!”
   – “Why are you always so frustrated about everything!?”
   – “Can’t you tell I’m busy?! I do all the work around here. What do you ever do?!”
   – “That’s annoying, could you stop!?”
   – “If you’re going to act annoyed, could you do it somewhere else!?”
3. Turn Towards
   – “What can I do to help you?”
   – “Why don’t I rub your feet while you tell me about your day.”
   – “I am so sorry that you have to deal with … that must be so awful. ”
   – “That’s hilarious! I wish I could have been there too!”
   – “Is something the matter?” or “Is something bothering you?”
   – “What’s on your mind? Would you like to talk about it?”

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