One big lie that so many people live with is: “OMG you can’t say that!”

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So many relationships operate in defense mode where each person is working to not offend or hurt the other person and will hide the reality of their experience from the other person while rationalizing it as protecting the other person. The trouble with this is that person A then loses the opportunity to know what’s going on internally in person B, thereby losing the opportunity for any real connection. When we hide our inner experience from people, we take away their ability to choose how to interact with us. In effect, we’re taking measures to control how they will interact with us. Control is what scared people do in relationship. So many of us have been deeply wounded in and through relationships and the temptation to stop pursuing connection is present for many humans. It seems easier to just give up. Thing is, if we’re wounded in relationship, it’s in relationship where we can be healed. Control is a relational tool that removes the agency of others in our relationships to mitigate risk. It’s an obstacle to overcome in the pursuit of living whole-heartedly. The opposite of control is trust.

https://theweirdochristian.wordpress.com/2020/07/23/what-does-bravery-have-to-do-with-connection

Hello, Strangers! :)

Yesterday I posted a really neat-o article, that sort of describes TEH BIG IDEA behind this site. We are all connected — in myriads of ways. Louis (Jett = @JettWriter 😉 ) mentioned (indirectly) a podcast in her article, and so she connected me to that. At the end of the podcast, there was a little mention (ad) of another podcast provided by the same company (and which I have listened to before too — but not for a while, and so there was a sort of re-connection made [even though I don’t think I will take that other podcast up again, because it ultimately became simply plain vanilla mainstream stuff, and began to bore me because it was actually not enlightening, strictly speaking] ).

And today I want to do something also a little out-of-the-ordinary … mainly because something quite out-of-the-ordinary happened. Two people I follow (neither of whom I have ever met (at least AFAIK 😉 ), posted very particular thoughts — which were very similar — at pretty much the exact same time! And they aren’t strangers to me (because I follow their writing), but I don’t know them (per se). And they don’t know each other (again: AFAIK). So Caralyn, meet Velda! Velda, meet Caralyn!

I certainly had to unlearn a lot of deeply, deeply engrained bad habits that were slowly destroying my mind, body and soul.

https://beautybeyondbones.com/2020/07/16/5-unhealthy-habits-i-quit

I can remember to be kind to myself when letting go of an idea too.

https://legendofvelda.com/2020/07/16/on-never-giving-up

There are many fascinating points of the juxtaposition of these ideas (and please: do yourself the favor of clicking through to the full articles! 😉 ). I agree with many points — and that is what I wish to underscore. Whether there are some points I might disagree with doesn’t really matter all that much — and I probably don’t disagree as much as I simply don’t know.

If you would like to learn more about my own ideas related to connections, networking, information on the Internet, etc. please feel free to follow some of my other blogs — e.g. contextual.news.blog. Let me warn you, however, that not everyone always agrees with me — and that’s perfectly OK, too!

ps: hat tip to Rodolfo Clix (via Velda’s post) for the bright photo / idea 😀