Category: essay

Engaging in conversations takes effort and with today’s fast paced world where everyone is busy, we are required to exercise our judgment on the connections that we would like to nurture – and, conversations are a great way of doing so

Keywords: Lifestyle & Relationships

Do we need to have connections to have conversations OR do conversations build connections? Which comes first?

https://theartofconversations.com/2020/03/06/connections-or-conversations-which-first

I don’t know, but let’s find out

Keywords: leadership

  1. No one ever changed their perspective by spending time with only people who are exactly like them. If you are a leader, you may find that you’re coming out ahead in power imbalances, so do what you can to seek out others.
  2. Share the foundations first. When offering plans for next steps, always come prepared to share how you got there. Letting others know that you have done some thinking, gives them the courage to ask you to think about other things as well.
  3. Don’t rush the unknown. No one likes being unsure of what to do next, but when we rush through uncertainty it can lead us to solutions that are limited in their effect on the problem. Get comfortable with growth mindsets and fearless exploration.
  4. Listen twice as much as you speak. One of the characteristics that all my favorite leaders have in common is their thirst for information. They ask questions from everyone, they comment last, and they do their best to disagree constructively.

    5. https://josepha.blog/2020/03/04/the-power-of-vulnerability

A bid for connection is an action that tries to get your attention and indicates a desire for connection

The three ways that people respond to a bid for connection are:

  1. Turn Away
    – Shrug and ignore
    – Change the subject
    – Look at them for a moment, and then carry on with what you were doing
    – Respond apathetically
    – Quietly leave the room
  2. Turn Against
    – “What’s wrong with you?!”
    – “Why are you always so frustrated about everything!?”
    – “Can’t you tell I’m busy?! I do all the work around here. What do you ever do?!”
    – “That’s annoying, could you stop!?”
    – “If you’re going to act annoyed, could you do it somewhere else!?”
  3. Turn Towards
    – “What can I do to help you?”
    – “Why don’t I rub your feet while you tell me about your day.”
    – “I am so sorry that you have to deal with … that must be so awful. ”
    – “That’s hilarious! I wish I could have been there too!”
    – “Is something the matter?” or “Is something bothering you?”
    – “What’s on your mind? Would you like to talk about it?”

https://intimacypact.wordpress.com/2020/02/22/recognizing-responding-to-bids-for-connection